Advice for a Friend at a Crossroads

Model answer: Dear Cem, I can only imagine how much this decision must be keeping you awake at night, and I'm honoured that you asked for my opinion. Please bear in mind, though, that it is only an opinion; you know your own situation far better than I do. Let's start with the course. Places like that are rarely offered twice, and the degree would open doors that are difficult to open later. Should you decide to go, you would also gain something that is harder to measure: a few years of living independently in a different culture. The drawback, of course, is the cost, not to mention the distance from everyone you know. The start-up is a very different proposition. What appeals about it is the speed at which you would learn; at a young company, people are often given responsibility long before they feel ready. Nevertheless, early-stage businesses are fragile, and it would be unwise to treat the job as a guarantee of anything. Were it to fail within a year, you would have gained experience but no qualification. If I were in your shoes, I'd be inclined to accept the place at university, and perhaps ask your friend whether you could contribute part-time or during the holidays. That way you wouldn't have to say goodbye to either door entirely. It might also be worth asking the university whether your place can be deferred for twelve months. Whatever you decide, I'll be behind you all the way. Call me this weekend if you'd like to talk it through over tea. Warmest wishes, Barış